After the Vows

Add A Little Hot Sauce to Your Marriage

By Dustin Ellis on

I remember an interview I once saw with Dan Rather in which David Letterman asked about a story he heard about Rather. Dave asked if it was true that Dan Rather carried a bottle of Tabasco sauce with him in his world travels. Dan chuckled and responded with a “yes”. Dave asked what...

Why is Intimacy So Complicated?

By Ingrid Myers on

Before I got married, I never imagined that sex would be a problem. After all, I waited for marriage to have sex and the “reward” should be a problem-free sex life, right? Plus, I was so passionate before I got married, I couldn’t even imagine NOT wanting to be sexual/romantic...

The Art of Requests

By Scott Mandeville on

This brief "how-to" is designed to help guide you toward a more consistent way of making and responding to requests without calling upon unhealthy tactics, like manipulation, "mindreading", or fantastical thinking. For example, "If he really loved me, he'd know what I want!" Making a...

A Marriage Rule for Unity

By Phil Wegner on

I’m not sure why you got married, but my reasons were pretty simple. I was a guy who really didn’t want to be alone and I had a burning desire for intimacy and a conviction that that desire could only be met within the confines of marriage. So, as quickly as I could, I got married...

Law or Grace?

By Gavin Carrier on

Law or Grace? What type of marriage commitment did you make? God’s word tells us marriage is our opportunity to learn to love like He loves. If this is true, then it is important to look into Scripture and get the full picture of how God loves. Whether we knew it or not, when we made our...

Laughter Is Good Medicine

By Ingrid Myers on

Through the ups and downs of almost 34 years of marriage, laughter has been a steady source of encouragement. One of the main reasons that I was attracted to Jay was his ability to make me laugh. The first time I laid eyes on him, he was in a skit in college being goofy and funny. I was...

I Pledge Allegiance To My Marriage

By Kristin Abrahams on

Allegiance. We all know what this means. When we think of marriage, we think of the word commitment, loyalty, and respect or love...Very rarely in our marriage vows do we hear the word allegiance. Many are reminded of the Pledge of Allegiance that we had to recite in elementary school. Others...

Remembering The Lions And Bears

By Dustin Ellis on

One of my favorite bible stories is David and Goliath.  I know that it probably makes everyone’s top ten list and it is a classic underdog story where, very literally, the little guy takes on the big guy and comes out on top. But I remember re-reading that story in my 20’s, and...

Mind The Gap: Viewing Expectations Wisely

By Gavin Carrier on

If you have ever been to London and have ridden their version of the subway, called the tube, then you know the phrase “mind the gap”. A recorded voice offers this phrase to passengers so that they will watch their footing as they step off and, on the train, to avoid getting...

Beloved

By Ingrid Myers on

Be•lov•ed - 1. Dearly loved. 2. A much loved person.If I had the courage and my skin wasn’t so old, I would have "Beloved" tattooed on my wrist. Although, I really need it tattooed on my heart. In my last blog post, “Looking for Prince Charming," I wrote about how looking...

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