After the Vows

Why is Intimacy So Complicated?

By Ingrid Myers on

Before I got married, I never imagined that sex would be a problem. After all, I waited for marriage to have sex and the “reward” should be a problem-free sex life, right? Plus, I was so passionate before I got married, I couldn’t even imagine NOT wanting to be sexual/romantic...

The Art of Requests

By Scott Mandeville on

This brief "how-to" is designed to help guide you toward a more consistent way of making and responding to requests without calling upon unhealthy tactics, like manipulation, "mindreading", or fantastical thinking. For example, "If he really loved me, he'd know what I want!" Making a...

A Marriage Rule for Unity

By Phil Wegner on

I’m not sure why you got married, but my reasons were pretty simple. I was a guy who really didn’t want to be alone and I had a burning desire for intimacy and a conviction that that desire could only be met within the confines of marriage. So, as quickly as I could, I got married...

Law or Grace?

By Gavin Carrier on

Law or Grace? What type of marriage commitment did you make? God’s word tells us marriage is our opportunity to learn to love like He loves. If this is true, then it is important to look into Scripture and get the full picture of how God loves. Whether we knew it or not, when we made our...